BDSM Clothing

Research has shown that language associated with adult play is full of imagery and narratives, making it one of the most popular forms of role play in the BDSM community. In the same way that a child might engage in fantasy play, adults often do the same to escape their daily lives and reality more generally. In this way, they are free to explore behaviours and sensations they might not encounter anywhere else.

This kind of sociodramatic play is popular in the BDSM community, and dressing up is a great way to get into character and facilitate a more exciting role play experience. Provocative and eye-catching, BDSM clothing will more often than not consist of latex, leather, PVC, spandex and fishnet. Not usually worn on a regular basis (i.e., for popping to the shop, or going into work), they are created specifically for that extreme wow factor. Not to be confused with cosplay or other costumes, BDSM clothing is designed specifically to be worn in role play between a dom and his sub.

Fetish clothing such as this has a particularly interesting history. Indeed the term ´´fetishism´´ was associated with pathological illnesses which caused the sufferer to find inanimate objects sexually arousing. Since the sexual revolution of the ´50s, however, this has changed drastically – and people simply consider it as a unique taste that is perhaps not for everyone. Indeed, there are places around the world where the leather subculture remains more suppressed than others which is telling of this history .

Although leather is commonly associated with the term BDSM clothing, there are other kinds of role play that don´t rely so heavily on this material. For instance, an Adult Baby Diaper Lover (ABDL) is someone who enjoys combining the experience of being an adult baby with wearing diapers, and is very much open to interpretation and personal preference. One important element of ABDL clothing includes the sensory experience that comes with this kind of play. We are talking the kind of soft, fluffy clothes that make us naturally feel very cosy and cared for (e.g., onesies).

Plastic lining in some ABDL clothes can also provide some security against leaks and provide a sensual experience for those aroused by the plastic textures. Furthermore, the knowledge that their diaper is secure in this lining is hugely important for an ABDL.

Similarly, in Daddy Dom/ Little Girl (DDLG) power dynamics, the general consensus shoes that littles don´t focus too heavily on what they want to wear, but rather on what their daddy wants them to wear. It´s a little different for ABDLs, and sometimes they may even try to rebel at what has been picked out for them.

BDSM clothing then can come in a variety of different shapes, sizes, and materials, allowing you to make a selection based on your darkest desires or feline fantasies. There is something for everyone if you look hard enough! An well planned outfit can facilitate that sexual energy you seek to find in your BDSM role play and here’s great place to get started

Are You Tired of the Same Old Hook-Ups?

If you and your partner are looking to turn it up a notch in the bedroom (or red room), you might want to introduce the anal hook into your play. This is an ideal adventure for those into anal penetration and bondage, a great way to test the waters of restricted movement, and a good excuse to try out some new toys!

There are two main components of the anal hook: the ball for insertion and stimulation, and the other end which can be attached to ropes or other bondage equipment. Additionally, they are made of stainless steel and either U or J in shape and may even have multiple balls or no balls. Depending on the dom´s desire to punish or reward a sub, the hook can also be adjusted – a huge turn on for both parties. Furthermore, it is something both men and women can enjoy, since it is contoured perfectly for prostate stimulation.

The overarching purpose of this toy is to restrict any movement of the sub during play. Going further than the more conventional stimulation provided by a butt plug or vibrator, the anal hook can also be used in posture training using other BDSM equipment. Butt plugs are, however, unable to restrict movement in the same way an anal hook can, giving it that extra sex appeal which the former might be missing.

Naturally, BDSM beginners might feel a bit intimidated by the thought of the anal hook. However, this is a great toy to be enjoyed by more confident and experienced partners who enjoy bondage and suspension. Originating in Medieval times, it was once used for humiliation and torture and although it has now been adapted for safety in play, it is a great toy for those who want to explore their more sadist side and here is new pages from .

If you decide that you trust your partner enough to do this – and this trust is key -there are a few ways in which you might want to use the anal hook. For instance, you can use ropes to suspend your sub from the ceiling (NEVER suspend someone using just the hook), you can tie their hair or another bondage rope to the metal loop, or you can pop on a harness.

Using the anal hook is representative of the trust that you have developed, since the sub has completely handed control to the dom. This is why trust is hugely important. Communication is equally important so be sure to have a safe word, and make sure he knows how to get you out safely if there does happen to be an emergency (touch wood!!).

Of course, the sensation is entirely subjective. However, if you enjoy anal penetration, bondage and have a more adventurous side, the anal hook is definitely worth trying. If you are just starting out, you needn’t worry about a big fancy set-up but do be mindful of your safety – as this should always be a priority in any play.